Friday, September 23, 2016

One wants to keep the relationship intact

                                                                                            Attribution: 日:Muramasa
Image: A Most Precious Moment (here)

When shades of loss weave with pattern of madness 
                                                                     - Sanaa
(to write inspired by the above from Sanaa)

And we all go bonkers dislodged 
from a pedestal of comfort and security
Where to dismount ebbed of motivations
(to love and sacrifice for one of the other)
is not pleasing to the emotional self

Disparity of levels of awareness and progress
following a break-up is downright unfair 
for one has to face the recoil 
at assessing reality all alone

One wants to keep the relationship intact
but the rationale at keeping a cool head is put on hold
where irate feelings are bubbling at the insides
wickedly wishing the other party is suffering just as much

Such is falling out of love experienced at the outset
where the confident self is at its weakest 
and at its most vulnerable
where one grabs at a likely being 
who happens to be around then looking for conquests
One succeeds in conquering and exacting revenge
or one gets conquered luck deserting at that critical moment

Failure in a relationship is then rewound 
for a second or a third episode following
A reappraisal is rebuffed hoping it will work this time
When shades of loss weave with a pattern of madness 
Will the human mind unravel itself back to reality?

When taking stock of the hurts and recriminations
adjustments are of immediate concern to make
for either a recluse accepting defeat or a fight-back
to salvage the honor and self respect of an esteemed self

Falling in love and out of love is still a necessary evil though
for all the valuable experiences unwittingly garnered 
It was horrid then but good when it lasted
so long as the emotional scars did not cause too much damage
and one is all the cleverer at the next round

For Sanaa's Prompt Nights  -  
When shades of loss weave with pattern of madness 
Bjorn's at d'Verse's OLN #180

15 comments:

  1. Oh!💖 This is absolutely exquisite writing, Hank 🙂 I can feel the amount of wistfulness in the lines; "Such is falling out of love experienced at the outset where the confident self is at its weakest' and 'Falling in love and out of love is still a necessary evil though for all the valuable experiences unwittingly garnered." Sigh, the heart knows its reasons which reason knows nothing of. Beautifully penned. Thank you so much for participating at Prompt Nights and for your constant love and support 💖

    Lots of love,
    Sanaa

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  2. That urge for love is constant and even with a break up there is still a pang of regret. Then years later you still dream of the loves that got away but hopefully regret none, because if you haven't loved you haven't lived. Great post Hank.

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  3. I think we need to understand the rollercastering of a relationship... and not be scared of plunges that happen... there is always that next ride.

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  4. "It was horrid then but good when it lasted".

    So true. And so terrible.

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  5. All we can hope for is to be cleverer next time around when wounded in love.

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  6. A lot of truth here, but you are right. It's part of the process and well worth it.

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  7. Yes, better to have loved and loss....

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  8. this write has been very visual for me, the fall from the "pedestal" followed a bump and a roll of credible angst by your words

    much love...

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  9. From good to awful it sure can go. But you have to love to ever know.

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  10. We are (mostly) ever-hopeful that this time, this time, it will all work out. Love is a powerful drug!

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  11. This was such a joy to read Hank, loved the picture and your message came over loud and clear. Well done.
    Yvonne.

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  12. I haven't heard 'going bonkers' for a while - it made me smile.. we do indeed live and learn

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  13. "When taking stock...
    for either a recluse accepting defeat or a fight-back"
    I always hope for strength to fight back and reclaim my joy.

    Love can indeed, drive us to the brink of madness. Beautifully penned, Hank.

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  14. A wonderful read, filled with the realities of how some relationships go despite our hopes and dreams. The old cliche comes to mind "better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" :-)

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  15. "Such is falling out of love experienced at the outset
    where the confident self is at its weakest "

    A rare bird who handles it well... and why is it so many want to lash out? Sigh we humans are a strange lot.

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